Why Dating is A Spiritual Practice

The Role of Uncertainty in Relationships

Just the other day it occurred to me that dating is a spiritual practice.

I am dating someone new. It’s been 4 months.

I can’t let the elephant in the room- the question of will this relationship last- take me over in its grip of anxiety and fear. I need to stay in the present and not worry about what will be in the future.

There is no way to know unless I suspend my need to know and embrace uncertainty. Since I have been meditating for 50 years (!), I supposedly have some tools that help.

I do my best to show up honestly, openly and with my whole self and see what we can create together.

My guy and I talk about relaxing into not knowing. We need to share the same space- eat together, sleep in the same bed, discover each other sexually, spend time navigating each of our emotional selves, find a way to communicate about those prickly feelings that arise, laugh together, meditate together, take hikes, see great art, listen to music, go away for fabulous weekends and immerse ourselves in conversation.

Doing uncertainty means we quiet down in our core. We get to a place of trusting ourselves and our process. We push nothing away. We welcome it all.