It’s all In our heads! — In the online dating arena for us older folks- the ones who qualify for social security, let’s say- people who are turned on by intelligence are abundant. Not only do they want but they also need someone who is very smart. …

Perfect for the 60+ Single Crowd! — As a polycurious single woman in my 60’s, I enjoy dating a wide variety of people. In my copious research (wink wink), I have gathered the following intel as to the pros of polyamory in one’s senior years: Single straight 55+ women, who have not found their happy-ever-after monogamous partner…

Court and Spark is not just a great Joni Mitchell song. — I date really nice, good people, mostly men. Kind, considerate, loyal. Mensches, good partner material. But often, there is no initial chemistry. I try two or even more dates to see if it could ignite. Sadly I conclude that it is doubtful that a spark could or would fire. This…

There’s So Much Living In Dying — Once your soul is soaked through with the reality that your days left are few, you are altered. It's like a plate with a heaping pile of wildly shaped pancakes submerged in copious amounts of maple syrup, proudly poured by your child, one sweet Mother’s Day long ago. You are…

Welcome her slowly into your fantastic-ness instead! — I spoke with this very nice man only once by phone. We had great energy on the phone, lots of shared cultural references and experiences personally and professionally. I really enjoyed it and was excited to get to know him further. Afterwards he sent me several texts expressing his strong…

How I feel about getting old. — My first thought is to clarify that, no, that is not a picture of me above, despite the beauty I see in her. See what I mean about not wanting to ‘get’ old? But let me say unequivocally that I do like ‘being’ older: I am in my mid-sixties and…

How this feminist woman signals men that it is okay to be themselves? — Good men overcompensate for the bad ones. And it gets a tad predictable and dull. On first dates, that is. For example, these good guys don’t assume I would be comfortable meeting them for a hike because they know many women don’t feel safe being in a somewhat secluded place…

… and I am in my 60's! — A few years ago, I found the jeans that I am wearing at this very moment in a donation pile in our garage headed for Goodwill. My daughter had thrown into it tons of clothes including about 10 pairs of jeans and they looked hardly used, so I grabbed them…

What I learned from being rejected after the first date — I have been online dating this round for about 4-5 months and my approach has drastically changed during that time. I used to have a list of ‘must haves’ and ‘deal breakers.’ I felt it was very important to keep track of the ‘checklist.’ It is so easy for me…